Bec's in the City

Trying something new

2009-05-22T21:02:00.001-04:00

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Is Facebook unchristian?

2009-04-27T22:14:00.006-04:00

During an attempt today to find an article in Our Sunday Visitor pertaining to the province I work for, I stumbled upon, "How to steer clear of pitfalls when using Facebook."

Being more or less your average 24-year-old, I remember the days when Facebook was far more exclusive. The days when students with smaller enrollments had to petition TheFacebook.com to take pity on them and add their college to the database so they could keep in touch with friends in a new and exciting way. The days when there were no applications, photo albums or notes; just walls, groups (which were limited to your college network), profile pictures, and pokes (and who really understood those anyway?).

In fact, I even remember the day the student body of St. Bonaventure University was granted access to Facebook. It was the last day of finals for my sophomore year. It was, to say the least, a bit of a distraction in my attempts to study that day. I'm sure by the end of that day I was thrilled to have something like 20 friends.

Today, between high school and college friends, YouthWorks and GreaterWorks peers, community members, youth who came on mission trips, a handful of relatives and all the random people along the way, I now round out at 595 "friends." (I'm thinking I should break the 600 mark soon enough, being in a new city and all.)

Facebook truly can be a time suck. There have been days when I've found myself looking at baby pictures for people I've only spent a week with in my entire life, or looking through countless wedding photos of a classmate I haven't talked to in at least five years. It is a fabulous way to keep up with who's pregnant, engaged, married or some combination of the afore-mentioned. In a lot of ways, its like a tabloid tailored to my life, with all the latest gossip about former classmates instead of celebrities.

But the powers of Facebook are not all pointless and/or evil. Given the places life has lead me, I do believe it would be impossible to foster relationships some people I genuinely enjoy without facebook. I can catch up with people I see only on a limited basis but like to think we would hang out and be real friends if we didn't live all over the country. Closer bonds might get a longer e-mail, or, if I'm feeling adventurous, a phone call. And, I did use Facebook to reconnect with some college and high school friends I'd lost touch with that were living in the same Big Apple as me.

If you're still reading, you might be thinking, "So what does all this rambling about Facebook have to do with the OSV article?" While I recommend reading it; it was interesting — one idea in particular popped out at me: According to Wally Metts, a professor of communications and media at Spring Arbor University in Michigan, "Trying to sustain hundreds of relationships will almost inevitably distract you from sustaining a few meaningful ones." Metts goes on to suggest limiting news feeds to report on only people "you geunuinely care about."

So tonight, that's just what I did. I went through the most recent days of random information about the nearly-600 so-called friends I have and "hid" anyone I haven't talked to since graduating college, as well as anyone I know I'm never going to have a meaningful relationship with. While this might sound a little harsh, I can still keep in touch with all these people should I need to without being constantly clued in on their daily lives. This frees up space to hear more about that handful of relatives, my close high school friends I left behind in Cincinnati, and the people who have really impacted my life in the past year and a half.

I think ultimately its going to prove to be very freeing.

No matter how long the winter, spring is sure to follow

2009-04-26T19:25:00.007-04:00

"April prepares her green traffic light and the world thinks 'Go.'"
—Christopher Morley

Living in Arkansas, where you can practically blink and miss winter, made me forget how much appreciated the arrival of spring can be. Living in New York has made the arrival of the season much anticipated, particularly after a very cold, very wet Monday this week where I unintentionally walked the wrong direction going somewhere and arrived at my destination longing for warmth with jeans soaked practically to the knee.

All week I eagerly discussed the 80 degree weather predicted to be coming this weekend with colleagues, random friars in the elevator and a college classmate I bumped into on the subway platform. I was skeptical when Thursday was still fairly cold and trying not to get my hopes up Friday morning when it was still relatively chilly. I was even doubtful Saturday morning when I checked the temperature to find it was in the high 50s.

But sure enough, the temperature rose as the day went on and by the time I was ready to venture out it was somewhere in the 80s, just as promised.

Its amazing how much warmer weather can brighten a day and beckon you to be outside. Yesterday I walked to the grocery store and made a pasta salad for lunch (I also bought some strawberries and angel food cake for strawberry shortcake). After a bible study later in the evening, I couldn't believe I wasn't shivering in my short sleeves when the sun went down.

I strolled to church in warm weather for the first time this morning and took more time than usual making my way home. But that wasn't enough time outside for me. Sitting in my apartment knowing how warm and sunny it was outside I decided to go for a walk with no real destination. So I headed toward Williamsburg (the neighborhood next to Greenpoint, often described as being full of hipsters*) and the park. Mostly I just walked in and out of shops and didn't buy anything, although I did end up getting a few more groceries, a couple of blisters, and possibly a slight sunburn on my back (too soon to tell).

All in all, it was a lovely excursion that left me truly appreciating living in a place where I am walking distance to pretty much anything I need (not the case in Ohio) as well as some things I don't need but are still very interesting.

So now the important question: Is the weather going to stay this way? Well, the weather channel is predicting highs in the 80s tomorrow, and a high of 90(!) on Tuesday. Honestly, 90 degrees might be a little high for me, especially in April. After that it trickles down into the 60s and 70s.

And with that, I am exhausted.

*Definition of hipster, per UrbanDictionary.com: Listens to bands that you have never heard of. Has hairstyle that can only be described as "complicated." (Most likely achieved by a minimum of one week not washing it.) Probably tattooed. Maybe gay. Definitely cooler than you. Reads Black Book, Nylon, and the Styles section of the New York Times. Drinks Pabst Blue Ribbon. Often. Complains. Always denies being a hipster. Hates the word. Probably living off parents money — and spends a great deal of it to look like they don't have any. Has friends and/or self cut hair. Dyes it frequently (black, white-blonde, etc. and until scalp bleeds). Has a closet full of clothing but usually wears same three things OVER AND OVER (most likely very tight black pants, scarf, and ironic tee-shirt). Chips off nail polish artfully after $50 manicure...

A job and a half

2009-04-22T20:43:00.002-04:00

I've decided living in a new city where you know (practically) no one ... well it makes your life a little more difficult. Especially when you're out of school.

I think sometimes we take for granted how easy it is to meet people growing up. Until moving to New York, I was always in a situation where meeting people my own age just sort of happened. Elementary school, high school, college — everyone is just trying to meet people and make friends. Even during my time with YouthWorks! and GreaterWorks, I was working with young Christians passionate about their faith. We had the same general interests and beliefs. Friendship just sort of happened.

But now I've moved somewhere where the only people I knew previously are a handful of college classmates that I more or less lost all contact with over the past two or so years. While I really enjoy my job and the people I work with, it is a small office with maybe a dozen people, and I am easily the youngest. So, not going to make lots of friends there.

I moved here aware of the idea that making friends was going to be a challenge. At times I feel like meeting people is like having a part time job. Example: In the past week I have gone to three young adult events at various locations in the city (or its surrounding boroughs) after work. The most recent kept me away from my apartment until about 11:15 p.m. I chose to stay that long, because it was interesting and I was enjoying my company, but nonetheless.

All this is to say that I feel like I might finally be making some headway. After nearly three months of living here, I feel like I'm getting to the point where I might be able to call people beyond my roommate "friend." (I joke with her that she has to be my friend since I pay her $850 a month.)

Its definitely something out of my comfort zone, having to intentionally seek out friendships, but I am happy to see my efforts finally paying off. Maybe soon my part-time job trying to find friends can turn into relaxation and rejuvenation with people whose company I really enjoy.

(You should also take the general topic of this blog to understand why I hardly ever write. Would you have the time if you were as busy as I was?)

Northern hospitality?

2009-03-08T20:00:00.000-04:00

Sometimes (okay, most of the time) I miss the south. New York is just an entirely different pace. Granted, I am learning to appreciate this entirely different place, but it is not Arkansas — that's for sure. I feel like things were comfortable in Arkansas. Here people get irritated if you hesitate before exiting the subway gates or if you don't walk at a speed that implies you're already 10 minutes late to where you're going (I guess that would be 10 minutes late in Booneville ... because here it's just normal).

Earlier this week, I was trying to climb on a train during "rush hour" for my morning commute, and got pushed into the woman in front of me. I was ready to apologize to her (mind you for something I had no control over) when she turned around with an angry look and said "Could you not??" Sometimes I worry this irritation is could be contagious and will begin to rub off on me.

Then there's the friendliness, or lack thereof here. That's not to say that I haven't met friendly people — because I absolutely have. In fact, I want to say that I am pleasantly surprised with the friendliness of some of the people I've met. But New York lacks the overall friendly charm of the southern part of our country. People don't honk and wave. Smiles as a result of eye contact with a stranger are seldom. In fact, most people do whatever they can to avoid eye contact. This is hard for me, because I'm so used to living in a small town where either I know the person or I just might as well be polite and friendly and smile and say hi.

Reflecting on these facts of life as they seem, I can't help but think the two are related, maybe in a never-ending circle. That is to say, if people were friendlier, maybe they wouldn't be in such a rush or so irritated with the person standing in front of them (or in my case, behind them); and if they weren't in such a rush, perhaps they would have more time to be friendly.

On a lighter, entirely unrelated note, I finally bought a bed Thursday evening and had my first glorious night of sleep on it. And tonight I got some lovely coverings for it that I should be receiving by early next week at the latest. Next? A dresser, I hope.

It's snowing!

2009-03-01T21:32:00.003-05:00

Not that that is at all a new or exciting sight for me, I just happened to look out my window and see this though.

So, not really feeling in an extraordinarily creative mood, but a little bit about how I spent my weekend.

Determined to pick up some necessities I'd been neglecting buying (read: hangers), I headed out Saturday morning to go to a Kmart I had spent a decent amount of time at on Monday while killing an hour or two before going to an evening event in Manhattan. So, Saturday I went back to pick up some things on a mental list in my head that I had been feeling a need for. Some of the things I purchased: trash liners for our kitchen trash can (we had been reusing plastic bags), hand soap, a cutting board, and about 30 hangers. The hangers were by far the most worthwhile purchase (although the cutting board is also very nice) since without any real furniture, my clothes didn't have a lot of places to go. Now I was able to hang up the majority of my tops and store the rest in an under the bed storage box left by a previous roommate (of course with no bed, it is just in the corner of my room). My next goal is to get a mattress and some bedding for that, and also a dresser. At that point I will be in pretty good shape.

Saturday evening one of my roommate's friends knew a DJ who would be at a bar in the next neighborhood over, so I tagged along with them where we ended up meeting three Australians. When explaining to one of them where I work and what I do, he replied, "Oh yeah, I think I've seen their ads on the subway." Which I appreciated hearing, because sometimes I wonder how many people actually read the ads on the trains.

And finally, today was a bit more relaxing (but still exhausting). I ended up checking out St. Patrick's Cathedral for Mass, which I think would be incredibly large to most people, but lately I've been playing a game where I think how many Our Lady of the Assumptions (my church in Booneville) could fit into a given church in New York. For example, St. Francis, the church right next to my office, I've decided, could fit somewhere between eight to 10 Assumptions. St. Patrick's could probably fit about 100. So I just couldn't get over how enormous the place was. I think I am going to keep exploring the city's churches though.

After Mass I forced myself to go grocery shopping since I had been just running to the organic store around the corner for 1 or 2 meal shops. So I decided I would stock up a little. Except that I have no car and it is about a 2 block walk to the grocery store. Granted, this is not very far ... but it seems much farther when you decide to buy 3 1/2 gallons of juice and milk, eggs, an assortment of canned goods and other miscellaneous foods. Thankfully, it managed to all fit into the two reusable shopping bags I'd stashed in my purse.

So now, I guess I'm ready for the start of yet another week in New York City...

Just some of the amazing things I've seen

2009-02-20T21:00:00.005-05:00

I know I should probably write something about how my actual life here is going, but in the interest of time (and the fact that I don't know if I'm in the mood to write something of any sort of length), I thought I would share some of the unusual things I've seen over my first two weeks of living in New York.

This first is a picture I took in Target in Fort Greene, Brooklyn. It was the most amazing thing I'd ever seen: an escalator for carts!

This one is from my ride home on the subway today. I didn't even notice it at first, but after a stop or two I looked over and noticed that a man sitting not too far away from me had the most enormous, what was I'm guessing a, stand-up bass. I just can't imagine lugging it on and off the trains, so I had to take a picture.

And lastly, because I was shocked to see how large the monitor is to my beautiful Mac at work:

And five months later, I've finally found it

2009-01-12T23:39:00.002-05:00

Almost five months ago now, I had the realization that I was ready for what was next in my life. Or at least I thought I was ready for what was next.

Late one night during Holy Week last year, I was finishing up a turn as guardian of the Eucharist in a span of Adoration at my small church in Booneville. Seeing the next guardian was there, I quietly finished my prayers and headed outside to drive our big blue van back to our house. I was only slightly aware that another woman from the church, who I had only spoken with on one or instances before, had followed me out. As I was unlocking the van, she approached me and said there was something she felt she needed to tell me. Her insight for me was to "be prepared for the journey ahead of me." She of course, could not tell me what exactly this referred to. Originally I thought maybe it was in reference to what was to come with my summer with YouthWorks! in Booneville (thinking it would be yet another challenge — of course if you read my previous blog you would know it was quite the opposite). As I wrote the previous reflection, I thought maybe the "journey" she referred to had to do with the experience I would have coming home and searching for a job. I think I was still only partially right. Let me share some of my past months' journey with you.

At the beginning of October, I received an email from a former boss and mentor of mine about a potential job. We had met a month or so prior in an attempt to soak up some of her wisdom on finding a job in Cincinnati, so she knew I was looking. As I began scanning over the text on my BlackBerry, my excitement quickly faded as I read the details of the job. It was for the Holy Name Province, which was exciting, but I knew immediately that would mean having to move to New York City. I briefly considered not applying, but, I remembered a phrase my friend Courtney sometimes said when I was trying to figure out who to take to our high school dances — beggars can't be choosers — and decided I couldn't yet rule it out. And anyway, what does it hurt to apply? (At that point, my many applications had not lead to any fruition.)

So I applied, and told my mentor of this, and she wrote a very kind recommendation for me. I waited, and several weeks later, I woke up to my phone ringing with a phone number I was not familiar with. I did my best to shake off that just-woke-up sound to my voice and talked briefly to the woman who would eventually become my new boss. We briefly discussed the possibilities of me coming to New York for an interview, and she said she would be in touch.

Over the following months I took a whirlwind trip to the city, waited a lot, put together some writing samples for a newsletter, had a phone interview, and waited more to hear. And finally, on the eve of New Year's Eve, I was offered the position.

So, was that a journey? Absolutely. But I think the journey I needed, and still need, to be prepared for is the one that is yet to come. By the end of this month I need to find a place to live and pack up my life and hope that one (or both) of my parents will take off work and help me move to a somewhat scary new city, just in time to turn 24 and start a my first "real" job just days apart.

So if anyone actually reads this, that is the reason for the change in title for my blog. But more importantly, if you could just be in prayer for me and my ever-evolving journey.

The packing epiphany

2008-08-30T03:14:00.000-04:00

Just now, in the midst of packing for a week of vacation and hanging up laundry, I had a small epiphany. So for old time’s sake I thought, “Why not write a reflection about it?”

My near-perfect packing skills brought to mind YouthWorks and GreaterWorks and my now definite departure from the organization as I look for what will be next for me. My thoughts ultimately lead to pondering why God is asking (or rather, telling) me to stay in Cincinnati right now. While I think the answer to that very large question is being revealed to me bit by bit and day by day (in time I’ve been able to spend with my mom, in the compliments about how much better the house is looking with some of my cleaning, in getting to see old friends again — or to not see them, but know that the option is still available), my revelation is more in the confidence in knowing YouthWorks is not right for me, at least right now.

“Then Peter said to Jesus in reply, ‘Rabbi, it is good that we are here! Let us make three tents: one for you, one for Moses, and one for Elijah,’ He hardly knew what to say, they were so terrified.” — Mark 9: 5-6

In reality, a significant portion of the past 15 months of my life has been incredibly challenging. Entering into my summer I was sure that I would conclude it by moving home. But then my staff was pretty much fantastic. And the summer went unexpectedly smooth with only minor bumps and hang-ups. So somewhere along the way I started to change my mind about being ready to leave.

Hindsight being 20:20 and all, I think maybe I was a little scared to leave behind what I had come to know and had become comfortable with in order to reenter a life I knew better five years ago. Like the disciples, I was a partly afraid and just didn’t want to leave an amazing experience. But now I see my summer in Booneville was a gift from God and His gentle way of saying to move on to what He has in store for me next.

Which, after this wonderful 3 a.m. insight, I think I am finally ready for…

Peace,
Becca

Multi-tasking

2008-04-22T17:47:00.000-04:00

I am attempting to multi-task at the Boys and Girls Club. Access to posting my blogs has become a premium since my laptop no longer will connect to our neighbor’s wireless Internet (don’t worry – they knew we used it).

There was a surprise waiting for me at the Boys and Girls Club today – our Start SMART class has been canceled and Caleb, the usual computer room monitored, couldn’t come in to work today. So here I am, monitoring the computer room with no book to read. I figure this is a good time to catch up on the reflection I never wrote for this past weekend.

At this point, I can now officially say I have less than a week in Booneville in the capacity of a GreaterWorks intern. And I can genuinely say I am sad about having to leave. I realize this might sound funny since I’m coming back, but I’m sad that after this week there will probably be a decent number of kids from the club that I’ll never see again. And I’m sad that I won’t be here to help make check-in smoother and Power Hour more manageable. I wish I could be here to finish SMART Kids with my class.

Even though I know by this time next week I will be well on my way to Minneapolis, Minnesota, I can never quite wrap my mind around change until it has already happened. Maybe this is a way to keep myself from being too saddened by the reality of leaving. I’m not sure.

It is hard for me to think about leaving the kids that I have really connected with and gotten to know over the past months. There is a part of me worried that they will miss me too much, but another part of me that wonders if they will miss me at all or just forget about me after a week or two – like I was never here to begin with. I can’t decide which would be worse … I guess the latter would be better for the kids.

Seasons

2008-04-14T16:37:00.001-04:00

Last night our team had our final book discussion. We were finishing Let Your Life Speak by Parker Palmer. In his final chapter, he uses a metaphor of the seasons to make his point.

In essence, as interns we are in the autumn of this experience. Palmer explains that autumn is a time of paradox. Everywhere we look, we see life dying off, but hidden beneath the death are actually the seeds of new life.

And I can see that. I see the ways we as a team are saying our goodbyes … through the flood of dinners we’ve been meaning to schedule but never set a date for, in passing off our responsibilities or looking for replacements, in answering the question of “how much longer do we have you for?” with “two weeks.”

But I can also see the tiny glint of seeds of new life. I see it in the way that we, as a team, can genuinely sit and have a fun conversation without the awkward silences. And in a way it makes me sad that it took this long for us to be able to appreciate each other.

But I suppose that is the way these things work. My mentor was celebrating her birthday last week when she picked me up from the airport and let me in on her newly found insight that the further she progresses in life, the more she feels like she understands it and gets it right. She was also slightly frustrated that she couldn’t have figured it out earlier.

That in mind, I guess the best thing to do is just appreciate the company of my team and the progress we’ve made over the last seven months for these next few weeks and hope that this year leads to continued friendships with them as we each move our separate ways and move yet again into the metaphorical springs and summers and embark on new experiences.

The airplane blog

2008-04-08T13:08:00.000-04:00

As I fly somewhere over the distance between Ohio and Texas, learning that not all American Eagle tray-tables were created equal (I must hold my laptop on my lap … my plane home had superior laptop-supporting tray-tables), I know that it is official: I only have three weeks left in Booneville… sort of.

Unlike my teammates, who are working on saying goodbye, I am saying, “see you soon.” In some ways I think this task is deceptively harder than the former. For Rachel, Katie and Kyle, all loose ends must be tied by the end of April for better or for worse. Their goodbyes are fairly final. In my case, it is easy for me (and perhaps equally easy for those in the community) to think of May as a small hiatus where if my loose ends remain loose, they can be tied upon my return.

Of course this is not the case. What I must continue to remind myself (somewhat of a procrastinator by nature) is that my return in May will bring a new and different set of responsibilities. My involvement in the community will, without doubt, look different than is has for the past seven months.

My newfound enjoyment of church on Wednesday evenings might continue, but not at my small Catholic church. Rather than consistent Monday through Thursday afternoons at the Boys and Girls Club, I anticipate shorter, drop-in visits. Of course, I do hope to continue weekly line-dancing lessons at the senior center throughout the summer.

I can’t say I’m concerned about the transition for myself; I think I adapt well to change (perhaps adaptability is my no. 6 strength?). However, I have heard transitions can be hard on Booneville. For this reason I am striving to do the best job I can at preparing the community, especially those less familiar with YouthWorks, for the changes in my involvement.

And while I am a little bit saddened to see my involvement with GreaterWorks coming to a close, I am very excited to introduce YouthWorks to new corners of Booneville and touch more lives as a result of the work I have been doing since September.

Hope in the mist of despair

2008-03-30T19:26:00.000-04:00

This week, I will not write so much about my own accomplishments or personal revelations, but rather my observations of the community I live in.

It would be denial to say I have never wondered why there is GreaterWorks in Booneville, out of some 75 YouthWorks sites. I have pondered the reasoning for this, the necessity, the need. Of course Booneville can utilize GreaterWorks interns… but do they need them more than other places?

I am not going to pretend to know the process of choosing GreaterWorks sites, but I am sure there are myriad factors that play into such decision-making.

As my time here draws to a close, I have been blessed to have conversations that help me to see why I am here. I can now begin to comprehend specific instances in which I was the right person to be in this community, and I am very grateful for having been able to help.

But what I’ve seen in the past week has nothing to do with me. As you know, the lives of many of the people in Booneville changed quite drastically a week ago. As a result, I have been able to see what this community, on its own, is capable of doing.

I’ve attended several ministerial fellowship meetings that often appeared (let’s be honest) somewhat pointless to me. The fellowship had an emergency meeting this week that was the kick-start of forming a clearinghouse to aid the families affected by the Cargill fire. The clearinghouse has already been stocked. And what is even better to see is that more than just the ministers of this community are working together, but more the members of the various churches.

I guess all of this has just kind of left me in awe and caught me off-guard because my perception of Booneville has sometimes been that things here are slow to get started and hard to complete.

This all goes to show that in the midst of disaster, there is always good. This community is working together to get through this. (In fact, there is a sign in town that reads something to the extent of: “Sleet, snow, fire or flood. Booneville will triumph!”)

Perhaps for myself, this has been an opportunity for my belief in this community to be strengthened. With less than a month remaining of my GreaterWorks term, I need to trust that the things we have begun as a team, whatever improvements we have made, were not done in vain. I need to trust that everything will not go back to the way it was before we came. For me, this is a way of seeing that this community can, and will, take care of itself long after we have left.

The long day is over

2008-03-24T00:52:00.004-04:00

To say the least, this, my first Easter away from family, will be one I do not forget (save possibly if I get old and senile at some point, but I digress).

The weekend kicked off well for me with a thoughtful Good Friday service, followed by a packed Saturday of lunch with my mentor, hiking at Mt. Magazine with Will and Rachel, making dinner for my team and attending Easter Vigil at my church.

It was during the celebration after the conclusion of Easter Vigil that I mentally planned out how Easter Sunday would go for me. Rachel and I would wake up and break our Lenten fast with a breakfast of pancakes, followed by a potluck, Easter egg hunt, and Sunday service at her church. That would then be followed by a lunch with some community friends, which in turn would be followed by dinner at a couple from my church’s home.

The day seemed to be going seamlessly when we were relaxing at our lunch destination and one of our hosts entered, announcing that DPM, a major meat processing plant and significant supplier of jobs in Booneville, was burning to the ground. My immediate reaction was, “You’re kidding,” in the shocked way that one assumes such a random and horrific truth cannot be so. He was not kidding. I later witnessed this myself when I walked outside and observed a big billowing cloud of grey-black smoke rising east of town.

My perfectly planned Easter promptly ended.

The primary concern was the large amounts of ammonia used for refrigeration that, due to the fire, were now leaking into the air.

In the hours immediately following, I called our dinner hosts and debated whether or not it was safe to stay in Booneville. Airing on the side of caution my team and I packed some Easter leftovers and a change of clothes and headed west, on the way calling my family to ensure they would hear the news from me first and not a local news channel.

All that said, I am now typing this reflection from my own bed in our house, back in Booneville. And I am very grateful that I will be sleeping in my own bed tonight.

But the part that makes this topic worthy of my reflection is that the future of Booneville has been on my mind. Though the air is safe, the economic future of this town may very well not be. Employing anywhere from 400-800 (depending on the source) individuals, DPM/Cargill by far provided the most jobs in this community. I can easily name a handful of people I know personally directly affected by this. The plant is gone, useless.

As a volunteer living in this community precisely to help it, especially knowing I will be spending an extra three months here, I find myself grasping for ways I could offset the devastation that will ripple through Booneville as a result of this great loss. But I am coming up empty handed, feeling useless. One of the only things I know that I can do is to continue with what I have been doing and keep my eyes and ears open for other opportunities.

The only other thing I know that I can do is ask for prayers … for a community full of people who woke up this morning celebrating the day that is central to our faith and go to bed tonight wondering how the day’s events will impact their lives.

Feeding the hungry

2008-03-03T15:24:00.000-05:00

“For I was hungry and you gave me food …”
“Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you? …”
“Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me.”
— Matthew 25: 35, 37, 40

In the most basic sense of the word, I fed the hungry last week.

Allow me to elaborate. On any given day at the Boys and Girls Club, it is not unlikely to have a half dozen or so kids come up and ask me if I have a dollar, a dime, a quarter, or some arbitrary amount of change so that the panhandler can buy a snack or a drink from the pop machine. Typically I say, “I don’t have any money,” which is sometimes followed up by, “Well when do you get paid?” To which I usually smugly reply, “I don’t get paid.” I should add that the club gets free snacks to give to the kids who don’t have enough money to buy their own snack. I usually recommend the kid try to chase down one of these if they are asking me for money.

I should also add that, unfortunately, there appear to be a few kleptomaniacs that frequent the club. Therefore dollars left in backpacks (or free in a cubby) do not last long. This was the case on Thursday when the younger kids came back downstairs from being in the game room and computer room. One young girl, who is always generous buying snacks for other kids or sharing her change, didn’t get to have her snack earlier due to participating in SMART Moves. Not unlike many other dollars, hers had mysteriously disappeared.

She came up to me and explained how she was so hungry. Though I tried my usual answer of, “Have you gotten a free snack?” there were none left. Her usual kindness and generosity moved me to go to my purse, retrieve one dollar bill and one dime. (This happens to be the same little girl who gave me many birthday gifts.) I proceeded to explain that I would buy her the snack of her choice, as a much belated birthday gift to her. She chose a bag of Cheetos that she eagerly grabbed and ate (and, I feel I must mention, she shared with her friend).

I like to think that somehow in this small act of kindness toward a seven-year-old, I have essentially fed Christ.

Fasting for others

2008-02-25T13:04:00.001-05:00

As I alluded to last week, the idea of fasting as more than the size meals I eat or whether or not I consume meat is a relatively new concept for me. This Lent is really opening my eyes to what fasting is and what it can be.

I’ve always thought of fasting as a personal thing. So I was surprised on Ash Wednesday to hear the priest at my church explaining that when we fast and pray and give alms, it should be for the benefit of others. I understood how we could pray for others and give to those in need … but how could I fast for others? I did not know at that time that this Lent would present opportunities for me to see how I could fast for the benefit of others.

One such opportunity was a 24-hour food fast I participated in with the youth of my church. About 15 of the youth (and some particularly inspired parents and grandparents) forwent eating and drank only juice or water for 24 hours to raise awareness and learn about world hunger and poverty while being in solidarity (a theme of Catholic social teaching) with those who hunger on a daily basis. It was great to see a group of 5th -12th graders be models for how the rest of the church might spend some of their Lent fasting for the poor.

One other way I had seen my fasting benefit others is among my own team. Not surprisingly, on a team of five we have a variety of eating preferences. Despite that, we have set aside a couple of meals each week to have one person cook and eat together. While the meals were always foods everyone would be willing to eat, recently I have seen much more thought put into meeting the needs of the rest of the team when making something. For example, though I have given up meat for the entirety of Lent, I know the majority of my team would still appreciate this source of protein in a meal. Therefore when it is my turn, I make sure to account for this need/desire in their life; they, in turn, have considerately accommodated a fairly restrictive diet. Though it was not originally my intent, I believe my fasting is benefiting us as a team.

I guess fasting for others isn’t as hard or strange as I had originally thought.

The similarities of sin and chocolate

2008-02-18T22:51:00.001-05:00

Having been Catholic my entire life, when I think of Lent, fasting just kind of follows naturally. But in truth, I never put a lot of thought into abstaining from meat on Fridays (in fact I have probably forgotten about abstaining more times than I could count in my 23 years) or into fasting on Ash Wednesday and Good Friday. It was a rule I followed. I’m not sure I really got the point behind it.

Over my years I have also given up many things for Lent. I can still remember the year I successfully gave up chocolate for the whole 40 days — including Sundays — and was congratulated by my parents with an Easter Sunday gift of pogs representing every football team in the NFL. Oddly, I was very excited about it. Then there was the trend of doing something more rather than giving up. (One Lent I resolved to make my bed daily — unsuccessfully.)

I guess I’ve come to the point of combining these two lines of thought into giving up and trying to do more. For this year’s season that translates to a pretty restrictive fast for the whole of Lent (not just Ash Wednesday and Good Friday) and continuing my pursuits of putting God first in my life.

Twelve days into the journey, I would say I’m doing pretty well. Clearly the former Lenten resolution is more easily measurable than the latter, but all the same I think I am on the right track. But that’s not to say that I haven’t had wavering thoughts.

Without getting into all the details of my fast … to say the least sugar is off limits. Well, just in case you didn’t notice, Thursday was Valentine’s Day. And Valentine’s Day means candy and chocolate, especially among the elementary school crowd I hang out with daily at the Boys and Girls Club (but there were also a substantial amount of sweets that morning at the senior center).

Being utterly surrounded by chocolate and sugar in all its varied forms begins to make a girl think: What would one little bite of fudge hurt? Theoretically it probably wouldn’t hurt anything … except for every idea behind the fast I am doing. Immediately a parallel thought process popped in my head.

Can we not tend to use the same justification when it comes to sin? What would one lie or one unkind thought or a little bit of jealousy hurt? But ultimately that little lie or thought or jealousy would be my one bite of fudge on Valentine’s Day that would undo all the careful and thoughtful work I had been doing up to that point.

Just a little something to think about. :)

Oh and don’t worry — I resisted the sweet treats. This way Easter will be that much sweeter.

My very special birthday surprise

2008-02-12T12:01:00.001-05:00

I have officially been 23 for just over a week now. It is funny to think about how this age used to sound so old to me, and yet now here I am … out of college and 23.

I was not one of those kids who always knew what I wanted to be when I grew up (although I did spend a few years convinced I would be an MTV VJ) so I can’t say I ever had a clear idea of what I would be doing at this point in my life. The only thing I know for sure is that I never would have imagined I would begin my 23rd year volunteering in a Boys and Girls Club in a population 4,000 town in Arkansas.

Usually, for a birthday spent at the Boys and Girls Club, all the kids sing “Happy Birthday” to the lucky staff or member. My birthday had no such event. But what I did get I appreciated much more.

At the club, there is a certain newly-seven-year-old whom I had informed of my birthday, only because hers is a mere three days after mine. I didn’t really expect her to commit the date to memory, but she did — always reminding me it was almost February 4 and what was I going to do to celebrate my birthday?

On Monday she rushed up to remind me what was so special about the day (incase I had forgotten I suppose) and told me she had a very special surprise for me but she couldn’t tell me what it was. This excitement was followed by quietly singing me happy birthday. She was so excited you might have thought it was actually her birthday and not mine.

My surprises from her were: A birthday pop-up card (made at the club on Friday), a painting of a Webkinz lion (pictured above), a golden dollar (not a Sacagawea … I guess these are new?) she had found at the club, as well as many hugs and much excitement.

I suppose what makes me so happy about my birthday surprises are they make me feel like I must be doing something right at the club. I am building real relationships with the kids and letting them know that they are valuable and cared for.

So, without a doubt, I never thought one of my favorite 23rd birthday presents would be a seven-year-old’s rendition of a Webkinz … about as much as I never thought I would live in Arkansas. But I guess that’s just one of the things I love about this opportunity.

Becca

The trouble with being needed

2008-02-03T15:07:00.000-05:00

To a certain degree, to be needed is a wonderful feeling. It gives a sense of usefulness and purpose to one’s life. Being needed makes a person feel uniquely important; perhaps without her, a job or task could not be completed.

In a community with need (and let’s face it, that is probably the majority of communities everywhere — if not all communities), inevitably someone in my position will find places to be needed. Being able to step in and alleviate stress or do things others simply can’t get around to due to more urgent responsibilities has allowed me to feel like I belong in Booneville, like I’m not just keeping busy but actually helping.

It used to be that when someone would ask how long I would be in Booneville, the response was something like, “Oh, that long!” Now when someone asks when I leave a typical reaction is, “That soon!” occasionally followed by a question of how things will get done without me. Some members of my church have even joked about finding me a husband so I will stay in Booneville.

The difficulty I find myself faced with is showing my community that I am actually not needed, but that they, in fact, can fill their own needs. This of course means remembering myself that I am not the only one who capable of what I’m doing and finding people willing to take on a little responsibility.

After months of practice, I have worked out the kinks of making a complex-looking church bulletin with Word (a program most everyone has on their computer these days). Now I just need to figure out who would like to take over for me. At the Boys and Girls Club, I am hoping to enlist the older kids and teach them how to make a club newsletter.

You see, being needed can be a wonderful feeling — but ultimately I’m not here to be needed so much as to show that I am not needed. I am here to work alongside the people who won’t leave at the end of April so that this community can continue to improve with or without me. I’m not here to be needed; I’m here to love and believe in Booneville.

Everything I needed to know about coaching basketball…

2008-01-28T13:38:00.001-05:00

So this story begins one week ago on Monday when one of the high school volunteers brought me the phone at the Boys and Girls Club. I looked at her with very confused eyes, sure she must too be confused about who she was supposed to give the phone to — because who would call me at the club?

Well, turns out she was not confused at all. On the phone was the head coach of the third and fourth grade girls basketball team I am assistant coaching. I discovered later he had attempted to call my cell phone first, but with no answer tried the club. He was calling to explain that practice for the evening was cancelled since there was the threat of ice on the roads (this is still odd to me, by the way). Thinking that was all, I thanked him for letting me know and got ready to go back to coloring with a seven-year-old. But, to my surprise, he had something else to tell me. He would not be able to make our game on Thursday. I would have to coach — alone.

At this piece of news I nervously chuckled and said that should be fine as long as he told me what I needed to do. Mind you — not only have I never coached anything in my life, but as a team we had only had one practice and one game since my return from Christmas break. I managed to grab myself a Post-It note and a pen and got ready to take notes. Everything I ever needed to know about coaching a third and fourth grade girls basketball team would have to fit on a three-inch square. At least what he felt I needed to know did.

As the time between Monday and our game on Thursday rolled by I tried to not think too much about what I would do. Granted, this was probably not the best coaching strategy, but we were playing the same team as the prior week (coincidentally the best team by far), so losing was unfortunately inevitable.

When 5 p.m. on Thursday finally came I decided my role would be to make sure the girls played even amounts of time and combat discouraged feelings no matter how ridiculous the score. I must have looked at least a little like a deer in headlights since Rick, the director of the club, offered to help me out. I welcomed it.

I didn’t call a single time out (mostly because I wasn’t sure when would be a good time for one). I have no clue what our final score was because the scorekeepers kindly reset it at half time so as not to overwhelm my team. In the end I think the girls and I are equally looking forward to the return of our real coach.

Assistant coach I can do; I am not a head coach.

March for Life

2008-01-21T20:37:00.000-05:00

Over the weekend I had the opportunity to travel as a pseudo-chaperone with some of my church to Little Rock to participate in the 30th annual March for Life.

My trip began around 1 p.m. on Friday climbing in a van with three high school students, my mentor and another youth leader from the church. These might seem like odd or small numbers, but there were only five high-school-aged youth in our church to begin with, and since the diocese of Little Rock requires chaperones to be 25 (and I am just shy of 23) both male and female adults, not counting myself, were required. Barely on our way we realized check-in was at 6 p.m., not 3 p.m. This turned out to be no big deal as we spent our extra time at a mall (a rare occurrence for me these days).

Activities as the “Extravaganza” (as the diocese liked to call the event) included praise and worship, a couple of speakers, a Christian screamo band, a dance (or as I would refer to it from my high school days, a “mixer”), prayer service, Mass, rosary, adoration and, of course, the march.

Undoubtedly the highlight of the weekend for our youth was the dance. … It provided an opportunity for them to have fun and meet kids like them — other teenage Catholics living as Christian minorities and sometimes suffering as a consequence. They didn’t have to worry about being called out by a teacher for their beliefs or asked why they worship Mary.

Having grown up in very different circumstances, the need for such events was foreign to me (and to the archdiocese of Cincinnati). Even from the several months I have lived in Booneville I haven’t received any outright discrimination as a Catholic in an area where I am among about 1 percent. To hear some of the girls talk about how they are not comfortable in school expressing their religious background drove home what a blessing it is for these high schoolers to have a state-gathering.

Undoubtedly the highlights of my weekend were the march (of course) and getting time to really talk and get to know some of the girls from our youth group and spending time with my mentor.

The march was unlike anything I had done before. Trying to overcome my political apathy along with my journalism background (we are typically supposed to remain neutral/unbiased) protests and things of the like are not really my forte. It was need to stand in a place surrounded by people from all different parts of the state and all different backgrounds and beliefs united in one thing.

And the rest … see above about the hardships I learned take place in our small community for some of the youth to understand why I really appreciated that aspect. It is just hard to really get to know people in a group setting once or twice a week. Or in the case of my mentor when she has five children and almost always one is needing her attention (her oldest and most independent was on the trip with us).

If anything, the weekend was just a reminder how much I have learned since I have been here and how much more there is for me to continue learning.

Becca

New year, new schedule, new ministries

2008-01-14T11:54:00.000-05:00

Being a northerner living in the south, I continue to struggle with wrapping my head around this weather. I went home for Christmas where I largely spent my time bundled in coats and scarves, then I flew to Minneapolis where there was snow everywhere. But now I’m in Arkansas. There’s no snow in Arkansas. I don’t think I’ve even worn a scarf since I’ve been back.

My logical mind knows only about three weeks passed between our departure from and return to Booneville, but the northerner in me doesn’t know what to do with January highs in the 50s. Weather-wise I feel like I’m in March, maybe even April.

This is all so confusing because in a lot of ways I feel like hardly any time has passed at all. Everyone remembers me and notices my return. Starting today, I’ll be getting back to what I have been spending the past 3 or 4 months doing … with a few additions and rearrangements (all of which I am excited about).

Last week Katie, Rachel and I checked out the senior center in town. It is a place we had been invited to but never gone to … and I’m wishing we had. We talked with some women there and agreed to start coming in one day a week. They seemed very enthusiastic about having us there, and I am looking forward to getting to know the seniors and hearing their stories.

This additional ministry will rearrange my schedule slightly, but I consider the adjustment to be well worth being able to do beginner line dancing on Thursday afternoons at the center.

Also coming up for me in this new year are additional responsibilities at the Boys and Girls Club in the form of assistant coaching a 3rd and 4th grade girls basketball team and lesson planning and teaching SMART Moves.

In a lot of ways my three week hiatus has made everything new. My shared king size bed seems bigger (though maybe Rachel would disagree); I have new resolve to keep in touch with friends, family and fellow GreaterWorks interns; and after months of us trying to make plans with Will (a former Booneville GW intern) we have finally been able to spend some time with him.

So with all that is new, what is even harder to wrap my head around than the warm weather is the fact that I only have about 15 weeks left in my community. 15 weeks that will probably fly by. 15 weeks that I could miss if I blink and forget to really be in my community.

So my challenge to myself is to appreciate these new ministries and opportunities as new ways to get closer to my community and love it more.

Peace,
Becca

'Twas the week before Christmas break

2007-12-10T11:08:00.000-05:00

Well… it is safe to say I feel like the past three months or so have literally flown by. Here I am writing my reflection looking ahead to just one full week remaining before heading home for Christmas. Just like the last week of a semester, I feel like my final week in Booneville is tightly packed with all kinds of things that didn’t get done in previous weeks. This mostly due simply to the timing, but it leaves me with a solidly packed week nonetheless.

Among the things that will be keeping me busy:
-My usual weekly activities of square dancing, Boys and Girls Club, BHDC, etc.
-A monthly lunch meeting with the priest from my church and another member of the community
-Good Fellows (ministerial fellowship Christmastime outreach)
-A trip to Heavener, Oklahoma, with Rachel to experience a midnight service and Morning Prayer for the Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe
-A Christmas-themed open house at our house
-A trip to Ft. Smith for a play and bonding time with fellow interns and FUMC (First United Methodist Church) staff
-Christmas potluck at Church

This is just a sampling as I am sure there are many many more things (included, but not limited to packing and saying see you soon’s). While I am not looking forward to the cramped schedule, I must say I much prefer it to projects, exams, presentations and papers. I just hope that, like with school, I do not get too wrapped up in the excitement to go home that I mentally check out of Booneville before our van is headed northbound.

The First Sunday of Advent; or in other words, a new beginning

2007-12-02T21:13:00.000-05:00

Today was the first Sunday of Advent; the start of a new liturgical year; a season in which we prepare for the birth of Christ. I find this hard to believe since the high today was in the 70s. I also find it hard to believe that today marks somewhat of a fresh start (liturgical calendar speaking) as there are just over two weeks left until we as interns will take a break, pack our things, and head up to Minneapolis to fly home to our families for the Christmas holiday.

Despite all the doubt and confusion in my mind, I take this new beginning (beginning is actually a synonym of advent) as a reminder that there is always a chance to start over, always an opportunity to try harder. Maybe I haven’t been spending as much time on daily devotions as I would like to … that doesn’t mean I can’t spend that time from this point forward. Maybe I haven’t done so great with meeting our neighbors … but the year is not over, and I can still continue to grow deeper in the relationships I have begun. Maybe I don’t know every Republican, Democrat and some independent candidates stances on all the issues … but I am still learning. (These are the three main goals I have been working toward over the months.)

“… you know the time; it is the hour now for you to awake from sleep. For our salvation is nearer now than when we first believed.” —Romans 13: 11

Time is constantly passing and we are always moving forward, but that doesn’t mean I am stuck in my actions and choices of the past.

I pray that the Lord awakens me from the places I have been sleeping these past eleven weeks whether they be in my spiritual life or in how I can be serving the community of Booneville to the best of my abilities.

Today is my new beginning.

Giving thanks

2007-11-26T09:12:00.000-05:00

Lately I have been somewhat in disbelief at how quickly time is passing. Leading up to Thanksgiving I could not wrap my mind around the reality that it was already late in November and just a handful of days until December. I attribute this mostly to the lack of cold weather and snow in Arkansas, as most of my life the entire month of November included cold weather and snow. And while it is getting much cooler, I am yet to see even a single snowflake.

This week we began reading and discussing our new book, Life Together by Dietrich Bonhoeffer. Quite appropriately, giving thanks daily for small things is major idea in the first chapter.

Bonhoeffer writes, “Only he who gives thanks for little things receives big things. We prevent God from giving us great spiritual gifts He has in store for us, because we do not give thanks for daily gifts. We think we dare not be satisfied with the small measure of spiritual knowledge, experience, and love that has been given to us, and that we must constantly be looking forward eagerly for the highest good.”

I, too, am guilty of looking for something bigger or better to be grateful for. So, as a reminder to myself to remember the small blessings in my life: I am thankful for having a family willing to let me move to Arkansas for a year. I am thankful for having a family, period. I am thankful for the friends that I have. I am thankful that I have been blessed with safe travel for all I have done in the past six months or so. I am thankful for heat, and for waking up morning after morning, for the generosity I have experienced in Booneville, for being a self-sufficient human being and for all the other little things that God has blessed me with that are so mundane and taken for granted that it would bore you to read them all. I hope and pray that from this point forward I can spend my time rejoicing in the small blessings in life rather than get wrapped up in asking for something bigger and better. Everything is a blessing.

I thank you, LORD, with all my heart;
before the gods to you I sing.
I bow low toward your holy temple;
I praise your name for your fidelity and love.
For you have exalted over all
your name and your promise.
--Psalm 138: 1-2

A day late and a buck short... except not really

2007-11-19T01:40:00.000-05:00

I feel obligated to tell you that I’ve never really been a fan of prewriting or rough drafts or outlines. I’ve always been a fan of just jumping in and getting going on the writing. Despite that, the following is what came after a hand-written rough draft — so maybe things change sometimes? You be the judge if this is for the better.

Also, on a quick side note: It appears that along with the vanishing of whatever sickness has been ailing me, my writer’s block has lifted as well. Praise God!

But anyway…

In the lull between GreaterWorks assigned books, I’ve found myself with a little more time to spend with a book I’ve literally been trying to read for years. I received my copy of Ilia Delio’s The Humility of God over two years ago during an internship at St. Anthony Messenger Press in the book department. Between school and other books and life I never really got around to starting it until this summer in South Dakota. For anyone who knows anything about YouthWorks!, you might suspect that this is not the best time to start a highly anticipated, long time coming book. Your suspicions would be largely correct. Since then I’ve managed a chapter here or there, usually around bedtime… but nothing too consistent.

So this was the first week I’ve really sat down to read it. I’ve struggled up to this point to really connect with the book despite finding the ideas behind it very interesting. It is funny how God works. The chapter I read this week felt like it was written for me right now. I would read and reread paragraphs just to make sure I hadn’t missed a single point.

I especially appreciated a quote from Thomas Merton (who I may be slightly partial to as he once was a professor at St. Bonaventure):

“What we are asked to do at present is not so much to speak of Christ as to let him live in us so that people may find him by feeling how he lives in us.”

This is how I view what I am doing here in Booneville. At the Boys and Girls Club or the Booneville Human Development Center or wherever else I go, I am not necessarily speaking of Christ so much as I am striving to let him shine through what I am doing.

Today I had the opportunity to travel to Little Rock with the junior high students from my church for a rally, which ended with Mass. During the homily, the priest discussed the idea that everything we do is a testimony to our lives as Christians and our faith — the question is: are our choices and actions a positive or negative testimony?

I feel like in a small town such as Booneville, it is highly likely most of the population has some basic idea of who I am what I am doing here. Now my challenge is to make sure my choices and actions are a positive testimony to Christ and to what I am here for. How am I choosing to live my life? After this year, what will I take with me? I am not exactly sure how to answer the latter question just yet…

But I leave you with a particular passage that caught my interest from The Humility of God and challenge you to think about it in the context of your own life:

“If we truly believed that Christ is the center of our life and world, that each of us is a member of the body of Christ, and that body is incomplete without us, that the fullness of Christ encompasses all peoples, all races, religions and cultures, indeed the entire universe, would we harm our neighbor? Injure or abuse the earth? Kill our enemies? Ignore the poor, the homeless or the outcasts of our society? Pursue wealth, power and control? If we really truly believed that all is Christ, would we continue to crucify Christ? Or would we act according to the law of Jesus: love, mercy and compassion? Would we be willing to lay down our lives out of love for the sake of the other? If we truly believed that Christ is the center of the universe, would we be so private about the good news we hold so sacred?”

Easy questions with simple answers, right? Or are they? What would our lives answer?

Becca

I've stood on the highest point in Arkansas

2007-11-12T02:30:00.000-05:00

Then God said, “Let the earth bring forth vegetation: every kind of plant that bears seed and every kind of fruit tree on earth that bears fruit with its seed in it.” And so it happened: the earth brought forth every kind of plant … and every kind of fruit tree … God saw how good it was.
—Genesis 1:11-12

While I wish I could say I have some deep, profound topic for this reflection … I cannot. To some degree I try to think through what I will write over the course of the week. Sometimes I have the reflection practically written before I touch a single key. This week my thoughts are loose ideas. Unfortunately I’m not quite over last week’s writer’s block.

I have had the opportunity this week to see some of God’s beauty in creation. Last Sunday, thanks to Dave, we observed an unusual comet (although I mostly appreciated being where seeing stars is a 5-10 minute walk up a hill rather than a 20-30 minute drive out of the reach of star-blocking lights).

Saturday we traveled as a team to experience Mt. Magazine for the first time. It was a trip I had been greatly anticipating since a week in Booneville rarely went by that I wasn’t asked if we had been up to the mountain yet. This question was almost always followed up by a reminder that the best time to go is shortly after the leaves start changing. So we decided Saturday would be perfect. Truth be told, it was a little on the cold side, though that became not so apparent while we were hiking to the highest point in Arkansas, and it was beautiful nonetheless. Sometimes I am taken aback by the beauty of trees with their changing leaves in autumn. I am inclined to assume people, not God, were the master inventors of colors. Looking off Mt. Magazine at the greens and the oranges and the yellows and the bright, vibrant reds reminds me that pigments and paints are just man-made attempts to emulate the beauty that God shows us through the beauty of his creation — nature.

I am also blessed with the opportunity, every Monday through Thursday, to see God’s beauty through the smiles of children at the Boys and Girls Club. I feel like I am finally becoming someone they know and look forward to seeing (as opposed to some strange new volunteer). A valuable truth I learned this week: In a gym containing somewhere around 80 children under the age of 10, piggy-back rides are kind of like a Lay’s potato chip — you can’t give just one.

And with that, having surpassed the 300-word reflection quota, I am ready for bed.

God bless and good night,

Becca

I suppose this week comes for everyone sooner or later...

2007-11-04T17:12:00.000-05:00

This week as I sit down to write my reflection, I’m sensing a familiar feeling. It is the feeling I used to get in college when Wednesday night rolled around on a week I was supposed to write a column for the opinion page and I had no clue what to write about. I would hope that maybe someone else had felt inspired to write about something so I would be off the hook. Sometimes it would work, and other times I would sit in front of my computer staring at a blank screen until I thought of something I felt passionate about. Columns were notoriously my least favorite part of being on the editorial board of my university’s newspaper.

But alas, here it is, Sunday afternoon, and no one can write my reflection for me … so we’ll see what happens…

It’s not that there’s nothing going on worth writing about, or that God isn’t teaching me anything – because I’m sure he is … it’s just that things are starting to settle into a routine here and almost feel normal. My weeks are somewhat predictable – though not in a bad way. I finally feel confident in my ability to call most of the kids by name that come to the Boys and Girls Club on a regular basis. I can look forward to square dancing every Monday evening, having a Sabbath on Friday, and getting a ride to Mass on Sunday.

And then there are the other little treats that vary from week to week. This week those things were harvest festivals and trick-or-treaters, having a cough as the only remaining evidence of last week’s cold, getting treated to lunch by the children of a woman from my church, celebrating the 7th birthday of a neighbor, learning that the same newly 7-year-old’s little brother likes to call me “Miss Becca” (yet somehow Rachel and Katie are just that – no Miss), the Tour of Tables, petting a cow, and finally having clip art to “kick it up a notch” in the bulletin, as Father Don would say.

So, I suppose if I could pull a common thread or lesson out of my rambling attempt at a reflection, it would be that it is already November. Soon it will be December and time to spend several weeks away from this community that feels more and more like home as time goes on. In realizing that I should cherish all the recurring and surprising events of my weeks before they are all gone and another YouthWorks! summer is here again.

Until next week (when, with any luck, my writer’s block fog will have lifted),

Becca

Lessons in humility, trust, and southern hospitality

2007-10-30T21:02:00.001-04:00

I accepted a ride from, for all intensive purposes, a complete stranger Friday morning. I didn’t have much choice. One of my teammates had dropped me off at Mass and I banked on being able to secure a ride home with someone I knew. But there was only one man in attendance. And I had never met him before. It was ride with the stranger or walk home in the newly cold weather.

I chose the former.

Prior to this week, I always thought I didn’t like asking for things (rides included) because I didn’t like to impose or put people out. I think this is true to an extent, but this week I learned a deeper reason to why I don’t ask: pride. With every question there is a possibility for rejection, a possibility that someone will say no. In sharing a van with four other people, I am learning to swallow my pride and embrace humility in the form of rides from people whose names I sometimes struggle to remember.

I also learned an entirely new aspect of humility this evening in Heavener, Oklahoma, attending Spanish Mass said by Fr. Don, the priest at my church, with one of my teammates. Perhaps for the first time in my life I felt completely lost in a Catholic Church. My 22 years of Sunday attendance had ill prepared me for this moment. I clumsily flipped through the hymnal trying to find the right page and follow along in English to no avail. After the service I was almost entirely dependent on my Spanish-speaking teammate to keep me in the loop on conversation with the parishioners.

In the same way that I find myself almost overwhelmed with opportunities to grow in my humility, I am also amazed by the amount of trust I have seen in Booneville. I am pleasantly surprised by the trust placed in us as interns, as temporary people in this community, who just over a month ago were complete strangers.

But the trust, combined with a good dose of southern hospitability, makes my newfound humility a lot easier to swallow. I rarely have to ask for a ride before one has already been offered. I would much rather accept an extended invitation (or not accept) than be turned down by someone. I have been able to experience so many great, new things thanks to the generosity of the people here in Booneville (not to mention that they have saved me a lot of long walks home from church). Earlier in the week I even got a ride offered from a random car passing by.

I did, however, turn down that one.

And oh, the places I'll go!

2007-10-21T14:22:00.000-04:00

As I watched the small shadow of our 15-passenger van move along the bushes outside my window on our way to Mt. Eagle earlier this week, it really sunk in to me: “I live in Arkansas now.”

It is absolutely unbelievable to me when I start to think about the places God has taken me over the years. Almost a decade ago now, I convinced my parents to let me sign up for my first mission trip to Detroit, Michigan. Prior to that I hadn’t been much of anywhere outside Cincinnati or Buffalo, New York, so I wanted a new experience in a new place.

Of course after spending a week in Detroit doing service I appreciated the mission trip for more than just seeing somewhere new. And a new mission experience in a new place followed each summer after: New Orleans, Louisiana; Camden, New Jersey; Lexington, Kentucky; St. Louis, Missouri; and Ft. Apache, Arizona.

During college I took a break from service, but resumed this summer with a place I had never expected to go in my entire life: South Dakota. I still miss the beauty of the Black Hills that I got used to seeing lots of week in and week out. Now here I am in another beautiful place appreciating the new experiences. In one week I got to see Mt. Eagle and the Heifer Ranch in Perryville (go check out www.Heifer.org).

So, in a nutshell, while part of me might desire to just be comfortable at home in Cincinnati, I am embracing and appreciating the amazing new places and people God is introducing me to throughout all of these experiences. And I am also working toward embracing those He might have for me in the future.

The follow-through

2007-10-14T19:20:00.000-04:00

I’ve been spending some time thinking this week about the commitments I’ve made here in Booneville. We were warned in training not to over-commit, so I’ve been careful to not make too many promises or take on too much over the past several weeks we’ve been here now. What is on the forefront of my mind is the importance to agree to do realistic things and build on those as I go.

There is quite possibly nothing worse than a broken promise, and the last thing I would want to do is agree to be involved with something I can’t.

Along the same lines, we are talking about personal goals this evening as a group. One of my teammates is not a huge fan of coming up with goals and asked, “What if I don’t have as many goals as everyone else.” My response was that the number is not what is important, but that the set goal or goals are ones we truly work toward accomplishing.

And I can take my own advice and apply it to where I serve here in Booneville. It isn’t necessary to spend every waking moment busy. In fact, I would be doing myself a disservice if I took no time to rest and concentrate on my commitments.

By having a few good goals to concentrate on, I will be more able to accomplish them. If I take on just a few good tasks at a time, I can pour myself into them and make them something great (and, I hope, self-sustainable). Then I can begin new projects (or new goals, whichever the case may be).

All that said, my unspoken goal tonight will be to commit wisely and follow through with each and every commitment to the best of my ability.

God bless,

Becca

With faith like a child...

2007-10-06T19:50:00.000-04:00

It seems like lately God has been bombarding me with the importance of the idea that we must be like children in our lives of faith. This week, especially, the concept has been everywhere I turn. On Tuesday I was reflecting on Matthew 18:1-5, which reads:

“At that time the disciples approached Jesus and said, ‘Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?’ He called a child over, placed it in their midst, and said, ‘Amen, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever receives one child such as this in my name receives me.’”

Oddly at that same time I heard Jars of Clay’s “Like a Child” coming from my teammate’s room. Like I said, I felt like everywhere I turned the idea was waiting for me.

So the next questions in my mind – what does being child-like look like and why?

Thankfully Christ has provided me not only with the questions but the tools to find the answers – two of the main places I have been volunteering here – the Booneville Boys and Girls Club and the Booneville Human Development Center (Let’s face it: The clients at the BHDC have child-like love figured out).

What does it look like?

Why would Christ say we must be like a child to enter the kingdom? This is what I have gathered: Monday through Thursday, I spend my afternoons at the Boys and Girls Club. It is not unusual for me to get there and receive numerous hugs from some of the kids I have been helping with homework. By the end of the day I can almost guarantee to leave with at least one drawing that more than likely says, “I love you,” somewhere amongst the flowers and hearts and butterflies.

Why like a child?

Thursday was only my eighth day at the club. To these children, it doesn’t matter who I am or why I am here – really all I have done for them is help them with math or read with them and maybe played the occasional game.

And this is the same way God loves us. It doesn’t matter who we are or what we do. Shane Claiborne points this out in The Irresistible Revolution when recounting a discussion he had with a friend who said, “‘… Jesus never talked to a prostitute because he didn’t see a prostitute. He just saw a child of God he was madly in love with,’” (page 266).

That right there is the secret – when we begin to see with the eyes of a child and love with the heart of a child, embracing our enemies and loving those who seem unlovable will be possible because all of our differences fade away and we can’t help but see each other as children of God.

So, there you have it. Now if only I can figure out how to become like a child… that part is still to come.

Week two from the eyes on an optimist

2007-09-30T22:49:00.000-04:00

I like to believe I am an optimist, a glass-half-full kind of girl if you will. I say this because I was reading my fellow interns' week two blogs (or at least those ambitious enough to have theirs done by Saturday evening) and observing a common theme: frustration.

I’ve found in my past experiences that I prefer to focus on and remember joyful occurrences. That’s not to say that I don’t get frustrated and can’t get caught up in it. That’s also not to say that my fellow interns' frustrations are somehow less important than my good experiences. I am being purely selfish in my reflecting so that in a few months when I reread this blog, I will remember my second week fondly.

All that said, I realize that I have been truly blessed this week.

Having never experienced anything quite like the Boys and Girls Club, I had some nerves about how I would fare. As is becoming a recurring theme in my life, I realize I should just trust God and not worry. The club is a great place, and I can’t think of a “job” I’ve had where time passes so quickly and effortlessly. I’ve developed a joy for listening to kids learning to read. I’ve discovered that mostly they just want you to spend time with them – be it playing Candy Land, Foosball or something in between.

I also appreciate what an amazing place Booneville is. I am also realizing how amazingly small it is compared to anywhere I’ve been before. Where else besides Booneville, Arkansas, can I volunteer with a set of people in the morning and get to spend the afternoon with those same people’s children?

So if I had only one word to write in my memory for my second week as a GreaterWorks intern in the community of Booneville, it would be blessed. I am blessed for the people I’ve met; blessed for the plug-in griddle Katie found this morning so we could make pancakes (we will have a stove soon… I hope); blessed for what I will learn this year through the books I read and the teammates I am living with. I am blessed.

And with that, I think I will go get myself a glass half full of water.

Until next week,

Becca

Finding home far from it

2007-09-22T22:34:00.001-04:00

“We’re sure you’re going to fall in love with the community in Booneville.” With those words my heart dropped just a little as I feigned my initial excitement over the phone with Dave Berg upon hearing my GreaterWorks placement.

That’s not to say that I didn’t expect it to some degree. There are a couple of things you should know to help make sense of the heart-dropping feelings and lack of surprise.

For my YouthWorks! summer I had hoped to work with high school students on a rural site. I ended up on a junior high city site. Prior to committing to GreaterWorks, I had anticipated moving back to the Cincinnati area. Somewhere in my heart of hearts I felt like my personal desires would be put on the back burner and I would end up as far away from what I called home as possible.

Shortly after arriving home from my YouthWorks! summer in Rapid City, S.D., I had MapQuest searched the distance from each GreaterWorks site (save Juarez since my Spanish skills do not exceed ‘Hola, como estas?’) to my house is Maineville, Ohio. All were under a six-hour drive but one – Booneville, Arkansas.

So I booked a flight and prepared to enter into a year of what I anticipated to be a hiatus from journalism far from home.

And after a week of training I found myself adjusting to a new home with a new kind of family – my teammates. Our community contact, Pastor Mark McDonald, and his family lovingly welcomed us into the community, and as our first week continued I began to truly believe Dave’s words. I could love a place almost thirteen hours from where I had spent most of my life.

Yet another surprise came in a meeting with the Boys and Girls Club where I will be spending a significant amount of time volunteering. Contrary to my initial thoughts, I will get to keep my journalism skills strong and in use over this time. They are hoping to put together a newsletter, and I am excited that I definitely have the skills to help them with it.

So any anxieties I might have had upon first knowing where I would be spending the better part of the next year of my life have pretty much faded away over our first week here in Booneville. If there is one thing I learned from my YouthWorks! summer it is that you can fall in love with a place you least expected to. And here I am with the opportunity to learn that lesson all over again.

There’s no telling what God will teach me over the coming months, but I am definitely looking forward to finding out.

God bless,

Becca